First of all, I would like to start with the question of what therapy is. There is a common misconception that therapy always has positive emotions and is relaxing. Contrary to popular belief, therapy does not always provide relief; it hosts both positive and negative emotions. It is a process in which a person briefly becomes aware of himself in his thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Therapy sessions can actually be thought of as a roller coaster. After some sessions, we may feel very happy and confident, just like on a roller coaster. But at the same time, we may feel unhappy and unconfident after some sessions. It is necessary to see the sessions as a process and expect to be at the top and at the bottom of this process. The important thing is to internalize these along with the awareness gained by the person at the end of this process.
So, who is a therapist?
Does the therapist advise clients about what to do? Most people expect their therapists to give them advice, but I’m afraid that’s not right. The therapist cannot intervene or intervene in the client’s life. In some psychotherapy approaches, homework may be given, but no direct intervention exists. The responsibility and decision to fulfil or not fulfil these duties lies entirely with the client.
“My therapist and I are like friends.” Of course, establishing a secure bond with the therapist is very important. But unfortunately, you cannot be friends with your therapist. Your relationship with your therapist differs greatly from your relationship with your friend. For example, you cannot see your therapist outside of sessions. Additionally, your therapist’s full attention is on you, it is one-directional only towards you. On the contrary, in friendship relationships, this situation is two-way.
There is a general perception that only “crazy people” go to therapy. The prejudice that only people with problems and psychological illnesses go to therapy is entirely wrong. Therapy is open to everyone. It is a place where anyone who wants to know themselves, realize the aspects they want to improve and work on this subject can apply.
“My conversations with my therapist in sessions are not safe; they can be discussed elsewhere.” His idea is entirely wrong. One of your therapist’s most important responsibilities is confidentiality. What happens during the session remains confidential with you and your therapist. A Consent Form regarding this confidentiality is signed before the first session. Unless you pose a life-threatening threat to yourself or others, everything that happens in therapy remains safely in the care of your therapist.
During therapy, clients have a misconception that they will be judged. Unfortunately, because of this mistaken belief, clients may not be open and honest enough in their sessions. It should be noted that your therapist does not judge you; she is just there to understand you and help you. Therapists listen to what you say, without blaming, judging or labelling, to understand you and get to know you.
With the pandemic, online services have become very common in our lives. Psychology has also improved itself in this field and in this context, online therapy services have become widespread in general. Contrary to this proliferation, most people have developed an attitude that the online therapy process is not applicable. According to research conducted in many countries, this subject has both advantages and disadvantages, just like face-to-face therapy. According to the study, therapy is effective and beneficial in both conditions.
The thought, “I will start the medication during my therapy” is quite common. Clients think that they will receive medication during the therapy process. But I’m afraid that’s not right; only psychiatrists can prescribe medication; psychologists do not have the authority to prescribe medication. Additionally, it is helpful to remember that you should pay attention to which department the therapist you choose graduated from. Psychiatrists are graduates of “medical faculty”, psychologists are graduates of “psychology” and clinical psychologists are people who have a bachelor’s degree in “psychology” as well as a master’s degree in “clinical psychology”.
There is a common misconception that only childhood is discussed in therapy. In therapy, information about the childhood period is obtained and discussed, but this period is not analyzed in every session. These analysis times vary depending on the school your therapist chooses and adheres to. Contrary to the generally known truth, therapy is a whole process in which current issues are addressed in childhood.
Finally, a common misconception is that talking cannot be treated; therapy will not work. First of all, it is not the conversation we have in our daily lives in sessions. Every dialogue spoken in therapy has a purpose. In our conversations, we do not act according to a purpose. Everything said, and every question asked is systematic and purposeful. It also carries a specific meaning.